There isn’t one. Sorry. I’m the same way. I want to figure out some principle or shortcut to skip some of the hard work that’s necessary to be who I’d like to be. This is true in my marriage, my relationships with my kids, my career, physical fitness and everything else that I’ll ever aspire to be great in.
If you’re reading this and you’re thinking, “Well, yeah. Of course. Everyone knows this. Why even write about it?”, you’re forgetting that you struggle with this too. I’m writing this to remind you that the struggle is worth the pain. The hard work you’re putting in now will pay off for you later, both in ways you might expect and ways you've never imagined.
It doesn't get easier, you just get stronger. Keep up the good (hard) work.